The Most Important Lesson

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This week’s topic: The Most Important Lesson

Growing up, I always thought that the golden rule was really the most important lesson. Treat others as you would like to be treated. It’s a good lesson, yeah, but the most important? No.

I think that the most important lesson is how to love. First and foremost you need to love who you are. Recognize that you need tweaking, as we all do, but love who you are and what you are and what you do. You need to be proud of the things that you’ve accomplished and the work that you do to accomplish even more.

You need to learn to love the wrong person in order to fall in love with the right person. There are exceptions to the rule, but I think that you need to spend a lot of time falling hard for someone who is totally and completely wrong for you. Only then can you recognize when the right person walks into your life and only then do I think that you can truly appreciate that special kind of forever relationship.

Loving your family and friends will most often come naturally, but learn how love them through their mistakes and bad attitudes, through their trials and their grief, through their anger and their mistakes. Writing off your loved ones when times get tough is the quickest way to a lonely life.

Love. We need it so often and in so many different ways. Love is the most important lesson that a person can learn.

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9 thoughts on “The Most Important Lesson

  1. Excellent choice – I think that is an awesome idea.(and What a sweet husband!) To add to what you said I believe it also has to do with maturing in your view of love – that it truly is not just a feeling, but a choice. Especially when you commit your life to your spouse, it took marriage to teach me that one. πŸ˜‰

  2. Right on. If you have love, other things come a lot easier.

    I’ve been tested by certain members of my family lately, but you’re right, seeing the hard times through with them is so much better than writing them off! They might surprise you down the road…

  3. Falling for the wrong person before finding the right one? I’m with ya on that one. And starting by loving yourself is a good lesson in love – one that a lot of people forget.

  4. “You need to learn to love the wrong person in order to fall in love with the right person.”

    This is so completely and heart-breakingly true. Never would have known what I could have if I didn’t go through something not meant for me before.

  5. I am a very big fan of falling for at least several people who are wrong for you before you are able to recognize the one that is right. I am completely baffled by the ultra-conservative idea of “courtship” where you don’t even singly date, let alone fall in love with, someone until you’re prepared to marry them in the long run. I think that’s silly, ignorant, and ultimately, doomed.

    I think another important facet of learning to love is the types of love, and how they manifest themselves, and where they need to be applied. Disney-esqe love doesn’t exist much and it’s a much broader, deeper, and multi-colored feeling than movies and publications might have us think. It’s one of the hardest but most joyous lessons to learn.

  6. “There are exceptions to the rule, but I think that you need to spend a lot of time falling hard for someone who is totally and completely wrong for you.”

    Sometimes, the person that you think is the most wrong for you, could also be the most right.

    Love is a very confusing thing… I think an even more important lesson is learning to love unconditionally. Now that… that is hard. And a lesson I didn’t learn until Oliver.

    This is one of the best posts you have done in a while.

    And I love you. πŸ™‚

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